Monday, August 3, 2009

Boston

This will come as quite a contrasting update to the last posted back in early July. Jared's condition improved following his surgery and he was able to be with cousins and have a lot of fun. Shortly after the fun, we started noticing some of his pre-surgery symptoms showing their ugly face. Obviously a bit nervous and paranoid, we began conversations with doctors.

Our August MRI checkup in Pittsburgh was moved up a week and we went to Pittsburgh with hopes that Jared was just experiencing some type of complication from the surgery. After a long week, we were informed that the symptoms were due to recurring tumor growth in the lower portion behind his throat. Both Pittsburgh and Boston Physicians concurred that surgery was no longer an option.

Now, chordomas are a different animal in that most cancer drugs are not very effective in fighting such a tumor. Dr. Liebsch from Boston presented to us the findings that there have been a handful of cases, in children with very aggressive tumors such as Jared's, where certain chemotherapy drugs have shown effectiveness. All physicians agreed that Jared must begin chemotherapy at once. We were referred to another pediatric medical oncologist in Boston that would be willing to meet with us on Monday. Appointments were made, we returned home, and all of the arrangements were made for our voyage. Many of you within the reach of this email have made this a smooth, quick and non-burdensome turnaround to Boston . We cannot thank all of you enough.

Well, being that today is Monday and Jared is now in bed I will begin to elaborate on our happenings for the day. This has probably been the most challenging day up to this point. After giving all the details to the medical oncologist, Dr. Liebsch then joined us as well. They both explained their desired plan of attack and then opened things up to questions. A lot of questions were procedural, but others involved their interpretation of the MRI. It was worse than we had imagined. Oh what an amazing turn of events.

We were informed that the tumor had in fact grown back as previously discussed, but it had also spread further down the neck. They are concerned that it might be spreading to other locations, but are hopeful that further imagining of other possible areas will reveal that it is contained in the area behind the throat. If it has, in fact, spread elsewhere, this will change the whole ballgame. The current plan is to admit Jared to the hospital Tuesday at noon. Upon being admitted they will perform a swallowing test, as done in Pittsburgh, and perform additional imaging. Wednesday, they will place a central line close to his heart in order to administer the chemotherapy drugs safely. They also informed us that they will be placing a feeding tube directly into the stomach, regardless of the results of his swallowing tests, this will be needed for giving Jared different medications during his treatments. Following all of this he will begin his first cycle of chemotherapy. Oh, how his life is going to change over this next week. What a heartbreaking experience this is, but I know many others have it worse. It is nice to be in the hands of physicians who have experience dealing with these diseases.

Chemotherapy is round 1 of the fight. If the first cycle of chemotherapy proves to be effective, they will proceed with another and another until no further benefit is noticed. This will begin round 2, the proton beam radiation. They sort of explained it to us as a race that Jared has fallen behind in, we have to use chemotherapy to catch up with the tumor and if possible, get ahead. If we can get ahead of the tumor, the proton beam will be more effective at doing its job. Hey, there is something to say about being the underdog.

Well, at the point of letting our emotions get the best of us, we decided that we needed to get out for the rest of the evening. We ended up taking a taxi to the Museum of Science to watch an Imax movie about the the world under the sea. It was so fun to see such a big smile on Jared's face as he was surrounded by the images of the movie. He loved everything but the giant squids. We spent another 45 minutes in the gift shop looking at all of the awesome toys they have. It really was a lot of fun. Jared has a magic trick he will have to show off upon his return home. It was great to be able to spend this evening away from everything that had just happened and will happen.

I will fully admit that the future for our son seems very challenging, but we find hope in the words from the doctors that there are still posibilities to beat this. Even more so do we find comfort in a loving God who is continually mindful of us in this difficult time. We have been so immensely blessed by the outpouring of love and support from people all around us. Family, friends and aqcuaintences have truly opened their hearts to us. I am positive there is a loving Father above who knows our deeper needs and will always seek a way to meet them first. Our sons recovery and journey lies in his hands. We love you all, thank you for your prayers in Jared's behalf. We will continue one day at a time with the hope that it will be the turning point for a miraculous recovery.

12 comments:

  1. Oh how we love and care for you and your family Andrew. I'm so very sorry for the news and sure know this is not what any of us had wanted to hear. I do love you and appreciate you taking time to update all of us after such an emotional day.

    We are keeping you in our prayers constantly and hoping for continued strength and support to all of you.

    Much love,
    Teri

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  2. I want you to know that we love you all and pray for you daily. We will pray for Jared's first treatment today and have faith in the outcome. This is such difficult news to hear but we know Heavenly Father is aware and can provide peace. Thanks for the update and in typical Vance fashion we are lifted up by your strength. We are glad you had a great time at the museum.

    Love, Stacey Mortensen

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  3. We love you all so much and want you to know that we too are praying and hopeful that the treatments may be effective. You are an amazing family and a strength to all of us. We are so sorry for the turn of events, but we too know that Heavenly Father knows our needs and He will watch over and comfort all of you throughout the difficult days ahead.

    Love, Mar

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  4. Miracles from a loving Father In Heaven has already been a blessing and we must realize that our continued faith in this event of Jared's life is most important and that all things are possible with God. He blesses us continually and I know he will continue blessing our sweet Jared. We never give up praying for all of you and realize that the Lord will carry you all through this experience. We pray for the Doctors as well and know this to be a growing experience for all involved. Our total faith for a good outcome is with Jared and your family......

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  5. Jaime, I'm so deeply sorry to hear of Jared's condition. What a miracle it has been to have access to such wonderful doctors. We continually keep Jared and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

    I was wondering if you've been told about an organization called Songs of Love. It is a non-profit organization that writes specialized songs for critically ill children as a way to help boost their spirits through long and difficult treatments or hospital stays. You can request a song for your child by submitting an application available on their website: http://www.songsoflove.org. It's all completely free and they'll mail you a CD of your own special song. When we requested one for our severely disabled daughter, it only took about 2 weeks before we had her song. You can listen to sample songs on their website. We also have Annie's song posted on our website: http://thetolmanfamily.net/AnnieStory

    I was just thinking that a special song for Jared might help boost his spirits and give him some extra courage as he faces some difficult weeks ahead. Let me know if you have any questions about the organization or how to order a song. I think that's something he might really enjoy.

    I hope the next several weeks go smoothly for you. You're in our thoughts and prayers.

    Jodi Oldroyd Tolman

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  6. My heart goes out to you. Things have taken a different path then any of us could have imagined. And yet, our loving Heavenly Father is a constant companion.

    Here's to the underdog!

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  7. Brady, Lauren & Little Boy BahrAugust 4, 2009 at 5:11 PM

    To Team Jared:

    I just want you to know that we have never stopped thinking about you or praying for you--and we will continue to do so. I'm so immensely impressed by the strength in your little family, and I know that if anyone is deserving of a miracle, it's you. Thank you all for your amazing examples and for keeping us updated through this rough road. We love you so much.

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  8. When we give thanks, I presume we should give thanks for all things since "all things give us experience" and understanding. It is hard to do so. This is the case especially when we are filled with love and empathy for our loved ones and mankind. It takes powerful faith to know that God will consecrate these experiences to Jared, his family and likely countless others on both sides of the veil. "For I do know that whosoever shall put their trust in God shall be supported in their trials, and their troubles, and their afflictions, and shall be lifted up at the day." Alma 36:3
    Our faith, prayers and love is with all you guys. Marilyn, Sherm & family............

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  9. Our love and prayers are, and will continue to be with you! We adore your little family! All our love.

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  10. We love you guys!!! You are all in our thoughts and prayers. Your testimonies and faith are truly inspiring. May the Lord bless you in and through this incredibly difficult time. Jared, hang in there and know we love you and are praying for you. You are one amazing young man!

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  11. We can't even imagine the emotions you must have at this time but we are grateful for the update and pray with all our hearts that Jared can stay strong through Chemo. We think and pray for you each and every day and words really can't express what we feel for your family. WE love you, we are pulling for you and we marvel at your strength. So glad Jared got a little fun at the movies before all this. What a sweet and special super boy he is.
    Love The Idiarts

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  12. All my thoughts and prayers go out to Jared and your family Andrew. Mom & Glenn told me about what has changed over the last little while for Jared. He is such a strong young man to be going through all of this. Jared, keep your head up, know you have many people praying for you. Andrew, thank you for the updates that you and Jamie post. I know this is a very trying time for you all. All out thoughts and prayers are with you all.
    Heidi & Eric Johnson
    (Glenn & Lindy Jones' daughter)

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